When I found out my husband had a business trip over a weekend I decided it would be the perfect time to go see my mom and grandma (who recently moved in with her) in Colorado. The one good thing about all of his work travel is he has tons of airline points so I decided to cash some of them in for a flight! Amazingly you can actually fly direct to Denver from our airport and its only 2 and a half hours, but I decided to take an extra day off and make it a long weekend.
I was a little scared I might freeze to death but the weather was amazing! My mom lives in the mountains outside of Colorado Springs and there is a perfect view of Pike’s Peak from her deck. I spent a lot of hours out there just relaxing. It was so peaceful.
I love my mom dearly but sometimes I have a hard time talking to her about things. She made some hurtful comments last year about the weight I gained after doing my IUI’s and also made some really inappropriate comments about having high order multiples. It really made me shut down for a while talking to her about anything I was going through.
I decided to breach the subject again while I was visiting and it went really well. It was nice to talk to her about it and she really listened and didn’t offer any unsolicited advice or say anything hurtful. One of the things we talked about was timing. Our original plan was we would start the process in March (because that is when we get our bonuses) and that would mean a late December baby if it worked out.
After discussing it on Saturday she brought it up again on Sunday. My mom’s birthday is December 18th. She has always felt like she really missed out on having her birthday be special when she was a kid (and even an adult I think) because of Christmas. She said that she always felt left out because her brother’s always got to have special parties or camping trips and her day was barely acknowledged. She actually offered to loan us the money so we could start sooner to avoid the Christmas baby!
Honestly I will be happy whenever I have a baby and I know you just can’t control things, but the thought of doing this earlier makes me really happy. First, with my husband’s work travel it gets harder as the year goes on. I was honestly worried about April because he attends a conference in Florida and he cannot miss it. Even in January and February he has some required travel but we already know dates so it will be easier to work around. This will also allow us to plan the rest of our year sooner. I know part of this process is learning to let go of control but a person doesn’t just change overnight. Once a planner….always a planner.
At first I was very excited about starting BCP in December so we could do IVF in January, but for tax reasons we need to pay in January and our clinic will require payment when I start BCP so it looks like I will start BCP in January instead. Thankfully my friend (who did IVF at my clinic) let me know this before I called the clinic today. They will require that I see one of the doctors again (even though I had a consult last year) before going forward and the first appointment I could get was December 7th. I will probably have to go back and meet with the financial coordinator and nurse coordinator again as well, and do blood work, so December will be busy. I also have jury duty in December and we will travel for the holidays.
It is definitely feeling very real now and I am really happy to say that I feel excited and nervous. Last year when we first did our consult I felt completely overwhelmed. This really confirms that waiting was the right decision. I feel ready to move forward with this now which a really good feeling
The next 2 months are going to fly by with the holidays and everything else and I will just be focusing on taking care of myself the best I can. Acupuncture has been going great and I really look forward to that hour of my week that is just for me. I really look forward to going. January will be here in the blink of an eye!