17 Week Update

It really feels like time is going so quickly.  Can it really be the last weekend of June already?  Next weekend my dad and brother will be visiting for a week, which I am really excited about.  I took the week off of work and I am hopeful to get quite a bit done around the house and with the nursery.  My morning sickness is still there, but less frequent.  Unfortunately I am experiencing horrific constipation and almost had to go to urgent care!

I finally actually look pregnant which is exciting.  I feel like it basically happened over night.  I was really starting to feel sensitive about everyone telling me how skinny I looked so I am loving it now.

We have also been dealing with some anxiety/jealousy issues with my stepson about the babies.  He is ultimately really excited to be a big brother, but he is also experiencing the normal realization that things are going to change.  We had a few hard weeks before he would tell us what was bothering him, but we are addressing the issues with him now and he is seeing a counselor.  Having a new baby/babies come into any family is stressful on an only child, and its only more complicated by him not being with us all the time.

 

How Far along: 17 Weeks

Total Weight Gain: Finally gaining back some weight. Down only 6 lbs from pre-pregnancy weight

Maternity Clothes: Last week I put on a tank top and it fit perfectly…..this week I put it on and it was way to short! I actually bought a few maternity items over the past few days, but I am still able to wear a lot of my normal clothes, as long as the shirts are long enough.

Movement: Not yet

Stretch marks: No

Sleep: Once I find a comfortable position I sleep well, but I wake up a lot to pee!

Best moments: Finally actually looking like I am pregnant. When I look at my little bump I literally feel overjoyed.

Miss Anything: Not really.

Food Cravings: Asian food and iced tea.

Anything make you feel queasy or sick: Meat has still been hard. Especially beef and chicken. I also often feel sick in the morning.

Showing: Yes!

Gender: We find out on July 16th.

Labor signs: No

Symptoms: Food aversion, constipation (OMG!!), some morning sickness

Belly Button: In

Wedding Rings: On

Mood: Happy. Occasionally moody.

Looking forward to: My dad and brother visiting over the 4th of July week.

Looking Back and Baby Registry

Today I was reminded of 2014. My uncle posted a photo of us on vacation in San Diego. I look terrible. Actually I look pregnant, even though I wasn’t. I look more pregnant in the photo that I do now, at almost 15 weeks. At the time the photo was taken I had already had 3 failed back to back IUIs that year and my grandpa had just passed away a few days prior. I was so bloated and heavy. While we had a great time that week in SoCal, it was exactly a week later that my dad went in to ICU and nearly died. I spent the rest of that summer flying back and forth trying to balance my job and being there for my dad. Finally when things turned around for him and he was back home I went on to have another failed IUI. At the end of 2014 I was in the worst health of my life physically and mentally.

Seeing that picture made me feel so grateful for where I am right now. It also makes me really grateful that I decided to take a year off from the physical and emotional tolls of infertility. I feel proud of all of the changes I made for my health. There was a time during IVF that I thought none of that mattered, that it had all been for nothing. Even if IVF hadn’t worked for us I can tell you just looking at that photo and knowing how I felt then, it was one of the most important things I have never done for myself. I know that weight isn’t everything, but today, 14 ½ weeks pregnant with twins, I weight about 15 lbs less than I did in that photo from 2014. Every product I put on my body is different now. Every product we use around our house is different.  The food we buy is different.

Making changes for your health is important and it makes a difference. Maybe not a difference that you see overnight but that photo was a serious reminder of where I was, and it wasn’t pretty.

 

On to the fun stuff………..

Thank goodness for good friends. Especially friends cut from the same mold that know the value of a good spreadsheet.

Because my friend A moved to the Bay Area last year we had preplanned a date for her to come up and help me navigate BuyBuyBaby to do a registry. My first shower is less than two months away and honestly I wanted to get a handle on what we needed so I could start gradually buying things over the next few months. When there are so many things that we need two of……expensive things……we know that we will be buying a lot ourselves. Spreading that cost over a few months, especially months I am not on maternity leave, is key.

So Sunday morning we met at BuyBuyBaby armed with a spreadsheet of items, brands, and prices, and we started scanning products.

We started in the bottle/feeding section. Let me just say, without A there I would have started crying hysterically at that point just from being so overwhelmed at the choices and we probably would have had to leave. A is a hero. Even with her well researched guidance, and great advice it was still really overwhelming.

The whole process took about three hours. We had to trade in our scanner 3 times because it kept freezing, and the stroller/car seat section was understaffed so we had to wait quite a while for help (the rocker/crib section however was crawling with employees that wouldn’t leave us alone!).  Doing a registry is not a fast process.

When we finished I felt like I had a good list. There were a few things I wanted to research further and a few things I may change when we find out the genders, but all-in-all it was a successful day.

I also registered at Target, which I am still working on, but a word of advice if you plan to register there…..the website is terrible for adding items. There are a ton of things (such as baby carriers and pacifiers) that the website doesn’t let you add to the registry. There is only an “add to cart” button. Finding things online is also a nightmare. If you plan to register there get the Target Registry App on your phone. It is WAY easier and you can actually scan products in the store from your phone onto your registry. You can also search products on the APP and add them that way without the annoying “cart” glitch.

Some baby sections at Target are better than others. The one near my work is terrible and they barely carry any baby stuff. The one near my house is much better. If you plan to register in store I would recommend finding a Target with a good baby section. Target also has a lot of “seasonal” items that are discontinued quickly. I am not just talking about things like swim diapers or snow suits either. I tried registering for a very basic swaddle and the app told me it was being discontinued. Just watch out for that.

I would highly recommend bringing a friend with you to register or at least taking the time to do a lot of research beforehand, otherwise you will be overwhelmed and run out of the store in pregnant hormonal tears.

14 Weeks Updates

I will actually be 14 weeks on Saturday, but I don’t usually blog on the weekends so here is my slightly early update.

The last few weeks have been very eventful, and not all in good ways unfortunately.

The day I hit 12 weeks I finally felt great. It was such a great day. I was finally able to catch up on things around the house and even get a few extra things done. I actually felt somewhat hungry, which was a huge thing for me. We even went to a local furniture and appliance store and bought a new recliner and dishwasher! The following day I was back to feeling crappy. I managed to go to the grocery store in the morning to get a few things, but spent most of the rest of the day laying down. My appetite had once again completely vanished.

Monday morning I felt even worse. I managed to make it to work but I was very nauseous and left around 2 with a horrible headache. By the time I got home my headache was a migraine and I started to get very sick, unable to keep anything down. This has happened a few times before and usually goes away the next day. Well this time that was not the case and on Tuesday my headache was gone but I was still throwing up quite a bit. I called the doctor and they prescribed me Reglan. A friend went to pick it up for me (my husband was out of state on a business trip). The nurse told me to take two doses over six hours and if it didn’t work I needed to go to the ER. I took both doses and I was just getting worse. Unfortunately it was now after 10pm and with my husband gone I had no one to take me to the ER so I just waited it out through the night. It was horrible to be alone and I was really scared. Finally at 7 am I contacted a friend and she took me to the ER.

I arrived a just the right time because it wasn’t busy and I only had to wait a few minutes. The started an IV and tried giving me Reglan via IV, but it did not help. After 2 hours or so they finally gave me Zofran via IV and it was like magic. I finally had some relief. I ended up being in the ER for about 7 hours as they filled me with 4 bags of fluid. My husband thankfully got home from his trip about 2 hours before I was discharged and picked up my new prescription for Zofran on the way home. I spent the next two days in bed recovering. I have been taking 1-2 Zofran a day as needed since.

Thankfully by Friday night I was feeling good enough to hop on a plane to Kansas to celebrate my grandma’s 90th birthday. I would have been crushed if I had to miss the trip. It was a long flight but it was very worth it. I spent the weekend with family and saw a few friends, but the best was seeing my grandma at her party. We told her she could start telling people about the twins and she was over the moon. She basically told every person as they came in. She is generally not the most positive person so seeing how excited she is to be a great grandma is so awesome.

After the party we had family photos taken and the photographer took a few special shots of us to announce the babies. Other than being totally exhausted and having a good amount of back pain I felt pretty good over the weekend, and I was able to eat a lot more than I have been which was great.

We got home Tuesday night and headed to the perinatologist (high risk OB) first thing Wednesday morning for an NT scan of the babies. It was the most fun ultrasound we have had and everything looked perfect. They were able to see the babies’ hearts and stomachs and brains! They have both grown so much! They are both measuring right on track and heartbeats were in the 150s. I loved the perinatologist! She was so positive and I really enjoyed talking to her. She said the babies are positioned well and everything looked perfect.

I am super happy to have a 3 day work week. While I am still having some nausea the back pain is the worst, especially after working all day. This should be a fun weekend as my stepson is playing in his basketball league’s all-star game on Friday, we are getting our new dishwasher installed on Saturday as well as getting our second crib and recliner delivered, and on Sunday we are registering!

 

How Far along: 13 Weeks 5 Days

Total Weight Gain: Still down about 7 pounds. Hopefully that starts to change as I get my appetite back and start feeling better.

Maternity Clothes: Not yet

Movement: Not yet

Stretch marks: No

Sleep: Getting harder to get comfortable but not bad.

Best moments: Seeing how excited my grandma is about the babies, and our scan yesterday!

Miss Anything: Just being able to do something simple without back pain or getting tired really fast.

Food Cravings: No

Anything make you feel queasy or sick: Apparently a little airplane turbulence, meat, and when I first get up in the morning.

Showing: A little bit!

Gender: Don’t know yet, but its funny how everyone asks “Do you know what you’re having? Oh well what do you want to have?” As if we get to decide. HAHA. We find out July 11th. I am toying with having a little BBQ/Reveal party.

Labor signs: No

Symptoms: Food aversion, BACK PAIN! Nausea

Belly Button: In

Wedding Rings: On

Mood: Mostly Happy. Tired a lot. Pregnancy brain is REAL! Earlier this week I wrote a check to our dog sitter and dated it March 31st!

Looking forward to: My new dishwasher and registering!