Today I was reminded of 2014. My uncle posted a photo of us on vacation in San Diego. I look terrible. Actually I look pregnant, even though I wasn’t. I look more pregnant in the photo that I do now, at almost 15 weeks. At the time the photo was taken I had already had 3 failed back to back IUIs that year and my grandpa had just passed away a few days prior. I was so bloated and heavy. While we had a great time that week in SoCal, it was exactly a week later that my dad went in to ICU and nearly died. I spent the rest of that summer flying back and forth trying to balance my job and being there for my dad. Finally when things turned around for him and he was back home I went on to have another failed IUI. At the end of 2014 I was in the worst health of my life physically and mentally.
Seeing that picture made me feel so grateful for where I am right now. It also makes me really grateful that I decided to take a year off from the physical and emotional tolls of infertility. I feel proud of all of the changes I made for my health. There was a time during IVF that I thought none of that mattered, that it had all been for nothing. Even if IVF hadn’t worked for us I can tell you just looking at that photo and knowing how I felt then, it was one of the most important things I have never done for myself. I know that weight isn’t everything, but today, 14 ½ weeks pregnant with twins, I weight about 15 lbs less than I did in that photo from 2014. Every product I put on my body is different now. Every product we use around our house is different. The food we buy is different.
Making changes for your health is important and it makes a difference. Maybe not a difference that you see overnight but that photo was a serious reminder of where I was, and it wasn’t pretty.
On to the fun stuff………..
Thank goodness for good friends. Especially friends cut from the same mold that know the value of a good spreadsheet.
Because my friend A moved to the Bay Area last year we had preplanned a date for her to come up and help me navigate BuyBuyBaby to do a registry. My first shower is less than two months away and honestly I wanted to get a handle on what we needed so I could start gradually buying things over the next few months. When there are so many things that we need two of……expensive things……we know that we will be buying a lot ourselves. Spreading that cost over a few months, especially months I am not on maternity leave, is key.
So Sunday morning we met at BuyBuyBaby armed with a spreadsheet of items, brands, and prices, and we started scanning products.
We started in the bottle/feeding section. Let me just say, without A there I would have started crying hysterically at that point just from being so overwhelmed at the choices and we probably would have had to leave. A is a hero. Even with her well researched guidance, and great advice it was still really overwhelming.
The whole process took about three hours. We had to trade in our scanner 3 times because it kept freezing, and the stroller/car seat section was understaffed so we had to wait quite a while for help (the rocker/crib section however was crawling with employees that wouldn’t leave us alone!). Doing a registry is not a fast process.
When we finished I felt like I had a good list. There were a few things I wanted to research further and a few things I may change when we find out the genders, but all-in-all it was a successful day.
I also registered at Target, which I am still working on, but a word of advice if you plan to register there…..the website is terrible for adding items. There are a ton of things (such as baby carriers and pacifiers) that the website doesn’t let you add to the registry. There is only an “add to cart” button. Finding things online is also a nightmare. If you plan to register there get the Target Registry App on your phone. It is WAY easier and you can actually scan products in the store from your phone onto your registry. You can also search products on the APP and add them that way without the annoying “cart” glitch.
Some baby sections at Target are better than others. The one near my work is terrible and they barely carry any baby stuff. The one near my house is much better. If you plan to register in store I would recommend finding a Target with a good baby section. Target also has a lot of “seasonal” items that are discontinued quickly. I am not just talking about things like swim diapers or snow suits either. I tried registering for a very basic swaddle and the app told me it was being discontinued. Just watch out for that.
I would highly recommend bringing a friend with you to register or at least taking the time to do a lot of research beforehand, otherwise you will be overwhelmed and run out of the store in pregnant hormonal tears.